Morning Sisters, How are you all? As I stole a moment to worship this morning I felt compelled to share this song and little tid bit with you. The other day I was preparing to write in the “Letters to Elizabeth” portion of my blog and came upon an interesting note in reference to households in Nazareth during Jesus’ childhood. In those days Woman thought of their home as “their Kingdom”. The men were usually working very long days and the women were taking care of everything at home. The woman were in charge of the teachings of the word of God and the prayers that were prayed all day long. They did not depend on anyone else to usher the Lord into their home. They made their home a place for the Lord to dwell. Sisters, Invite the Lord to come Into your home, into your Kingdom. My father, who are in heaven, hallowed be they name. Your kingdom come, into my home, just as it is in heaven
It’s Freedom Friday!!
I know it feels like we don’t have freedom from much these days but God is good. You have freedom from all the things, sister.
As you all know, there is currently an pandemic at large. Everyone is doing their best to distance themselves. Everyone (pretty much) understands the effects that this could have on their health and the health of their loved ones. What if we couldn’t distance ourselves from this? What if we actually went out and got it, thinking it was a healing potion for our ailments? I mean, imagine? There is another “virus” that has been released into the word, directed to us woman. It is claiming to free us from our “tame” women lives and take us on a journey of self discovery. This virus is a book titled “Untamed” written by Glennon Doyle. I know this sounds harsh but Freedom is so dear to me. We have to talk about this.
Before I begin, I want to say this. I have followed Glennon Doyle from afar for years. I like her. She’s gorgeous and smart. She is the leader of amazing non-profits. Her shoes and clothes are to die for and she genuinely has a heart to encourage woman. This is not an attack on her, or her lifestyle, or her life choices. This is a letter to raise questions about the advice she is giving woman on how to become “free” via her own life story.
I watched an interview with you this morning about your new book. You explained that this book is the story of how you became “a free woman”. I wonder what you mean by free? I have heard you say that you have struggled with addiction and infidelity, as well as had to fight for your first marriage to survive. Is that what you are now free from? You went on to explain that your self discovery began when your, now wife, walked into a room and you heard a voice from, which you first thought was from above but then realized was actually from deep with you. “Your authentic voice”. At first, you were scared of this voice but only because you “had been tamed into believing that if you did what was right for you, you would hurt your people”. The straw that broke the camels back for you was when you were braiding your daughters hair and thought to yourself, ” I’m staying in this marriage for her but would I want this marriage for her?” After watching this interview my heart was heavy for you. I imagined you, years ago, tired and at the end of your rope. The weight of your feelings must have felt like too much to bear. You were desperate for relief and instead of pressing on, in the grace of God, you chose freewill and mistakenly called it freedom. Sister, you are loved.
Out of curiosity, I googled the word tame and it is defined as , “to make or become gentle or obedient. James 3:17-18 says, But wisdom that comes from heaven is first of all pure. It is also peace loving, gentle at all times, and willing to yield to others. It is full of mercy and good deeds. It shows no partiality and is always sincere and those who are peacemakers will plant seeds of peace and reap a harvest of goodness. It is good, in the eyes of the Lord for us to be gentle and obedient. Those who are will reap a harvest of goodness. Sister, you do want to be tame and in fact, according to God’s word, you will be blessed for it.
I know the voice you heard that day when your wife walked in the room must have felt good. I bet the way you two looked at each other awakened emotions in you that you had been craving to feel for years. Sister, this was not freedom. This was not self discovery. This was temptation. James 1:14 says, Temptation comes from the lure of our own evil desires. Oh how the enemy loves this kind of deception, sin masked in Freedom. Sister, I wish you had dug into the word of God during this time. Ephesians 6:11 says we need to be ready to resist these tricks from the enemy.
I know life is hard. It’s easy, as parents, to want to model a happy life for our children but the truth is we aren’t always happy. Modeling a surrendered life is much more valuable to our children than claiming a happy one. Jesus himself said, “If any of you wants to be my follower, you must set aside your selfish ambition, shoulder your cross daily, and follow me. If you try to keep your life for yourself, you will lose it. But if you give up your life for me, you will find true life. Let’s teach our children that our most intimate relationship here on earth must be with Jesus. Only when we love Jesus our most can we love others our best.
Oh sister, please reconsider what you a sharing with woman all over the world. Giving into your desire is not freedom. I encourage you to talk with the Lord. I encourage you to read His living word. I encourage you with the endless, steadfast love that He has for you to draw near to Him. He is the only one who can give you true freedom.
In closing to everyone, just as we are washing our hands, like mad and staying away from large crowds to avoid the corona virus; so should we be digging into the word of God, like mad and resisting temptation in order to avoid being bound by our sin. This is not our home, sisters.
Incase you’d like to watch the interview that I have referenced above, here is the link:
A few mornings ago I woke up with the need to worship and pray but it was 6:20 am I had too much to do. Noon had rolled around and the need persisted. I told myself it was no use. As soon as I slipped away a small human would call my name and my time would be up. Sigh, I grabbed my grandma’s rosary, knelt by the side of my bed, and turned on my new favorite worship song. Sure enough, a few minutes later tiny foot steps get closer and closer and I hear my little Millie say, “whatcha doin momma?”
Everything in me wanted to say, Mommy needs a minute. Go and I’ll tell you when I’m done. Instead though, I felt the Holy Spirit urge me to teach her. So, I said, I’m worshiping God. You wanna worship him with me?” Her little eyes lit up and she said, “Sure.” I turned the song back on and explained to her that I like to listen to music a little before I pray. I told her that I hold grandmama’s rosary, that was very interesting to her. Then I explained that I just ask Jesus to come close to me, that His will would be done in my life and that He would be in my whole day. This whole time she was just sitting quite, just listening with her eyes closed and all of a sudden she says, “Yeah mommy because HE IS OUR DAYS.” Instantly my heart fluttered. The Holy Spirit spoke to her in that moment and it was what I NEEDED to hear. All day I was putting off time with Jesus. What are our days without Him? What use is doing all things but ignoring the MOST IMPORTANT thing, Jesus.
How silly of me to think I was going to be doing the teaching.
Jesus is everything to everyone. The sun does not rise and the moon does not glow without Jesus. We are not enough and we can not do enough without Jesus. He is our beginning. He is our end. HE IS OUR DAYS!
Through the Lord’s mercies we are not consumed, because His compassion’s fail not. They are new every morning; Great is your faithfulness. “The Lord is my portion”, says my soul, “Therefore I hope in Him!” (lamentations 3:22-24)
This weekend was hard. The twins and I have been sick. I was tired and cranky and it “leaked” all over the house.
Today is a new day! God’s compassion’s fail not and they are new every morning. Thank you Jesus.
In this scripture Jeremiah is grieving the loss of Jerusalem to the Babylonians, which God allowed. Jeremiah was a prophet to the Lord and heard from Him often. Still he was full of sorrow. Still he knew where his hope came from.
If this weekend was tough. You woke up with new compassion from the Lord this morning. Let him be your portion today.
It was such a productive day. I literally did all the things. Took the girls to VBS, grabbed a coffee, payed all the bills, started a load of laundry, took big kids to the dentist, Picked up girls from VBS, went to lunch, got biggest kid a hair cut, went back to dentist to fill a cavity and pull a baby tooth, went home and finished laundry, sewed the football jersey, took big kid to football practice, cooked the dinner, picked up big kid from football, bathed the girls, bedtime with a story and a song. BAMB
But there is one thing I didn’t do and it kept me up late in the night. Why didn’t I just do it?
While at Chic fil a with the kids for lunch there was a momma with two boys. One was about 6 and the other about 3. She was holding the (big) 3 year old in one arm and holding the other’s hand. The 7 year old was letting out a constant grown of discomfort and the 3 year old was flailing in a fit as the momma struggled to carry him from one table to the other. This wasn’t the typical kid fit. Something else developmentally or sensory was going on (not that that even matters). My kids were staring at them like their life depended on it. My biggest kid says, ” Mom if that was one of us you would snatch us to the bathroom for a spank.” and all my others started laughing. I quickly zipped there mouths and gave a big long compassion speech. But that was all I did. That was it.
I had a little voice in me saying, ‘Go ask her if she needs help.” and I didn’t do it. I thought, I might make it worse for the mom? I thought maybe this doesn’t phase her like it does others? But the voice said, Go ask her if she needs help and I didn’t listen. Aargh!
All the things I did that day? Non of them did anything for the Kingdom of God.
I’m sad that I missed this opportunity to love on another mom but I am also grateful for the reminder it has given me to be more thoughtful of Kingdom things than worldly things.
If your TO DO list is full of things but no Kingdom things… throw it out.
Lord, make me a woman who serves your Kingdom First and always. Make your voice louder that any other’s my ears can hear.
For no one can lay any other foundation than the one we already have-Jesus Christ. Now anyone who builds on that foundation may use gold, silver, jewels, wood, hay or straw. But there is going to come a time of testing at the judgment day to see what kind of work each builder has done. Everyone’s work will be out through the fire to see whether or not it keeps its value. 1 Corinthians 3:11-13
So, I have to tell you all about this book I read called “A war of Loves”. I could not put it down! It has changed my entire perspective of the LGBTQI community and it has convicted me in so many ways.
So this is the background of the book. A man named David Bennett(the author) came out to his family when he was 14. He went to a Christian school. He was treated poorly by most of his peers. He completely rebelled against the word of God and his Christian faith. I don’t want to give to much away because you must read this book for yourself BUT he gets saved in the most unlikely place, the Lord speaks to Him, his heart is softened and He is changed forever. He still calls himself a gay man but knows his true identity is in Jesus and he has sacrificed his sexual life to the Lord and lives a celibate life because he believes the word of God.
Over the past several years I have felt a “burden of a need”(what ever that even means:)) for the Lord to teach me how to love gay people well. Doesn’t that sound so gross. I’m a 37 year old Christian woman and I need to be taught how to love gay people? I know Eww, BUT What I have discovered is, it has never been about me not loving them. I have always loved gay people. I have family members and good friends that are gay. Being a performer I met and loved many gay people. Without a few of them I probably would have been found dead in the back alley of a dance club a time or two. No, the question is not how do I love them because I already do. The question is how do I love them like Jesus loves them?
His answer, The same way I love you.
I cried like a big fat baby reading the conversations the author had with the Lord. It reminded me of exactly how Jesus pursued me. How could I forget? How has my testimony become “what God did for me” instead of “what God continues to do for me”? Jesus walks with me Relentlessly, Perfectly and right where I am, inside my sin. How is that different from anyone else? It’s not!
The only way to love anyone well is to love them right where they are because that’s how Jesus loves us.
We must stop believing that it is our job to tell someone what there sin is. Jesus tells us in Matthew 7:4-5 to remove the log out of our own eye before we offer to get the speck out of another’s eye. We must remember his purpose in saying this was not to condone other’s sin but so that we may become humble in our relationship with the Lord and in turn become compassionate to others because we know the weight of our own sin. There is absolutely a time to speak truthfully to our friends about each other’s sin because we love each other. This conversation is only followed though by gradually growing in relationship with this friend. Loving them fully and becoming a trusted friend. It would be a very rare instance where the Holy Spirit would lead any one of us to announce the sin of a stranger. Or to proclaim in on the internet.
We must stop believing that we have any ability to save anyone. Isn’t it just like us as humans to come to the notion that we can save a soul. Out of my love for Jesus I have absolutely thought about saving people’s souls! Like, how cool because I know how much their life would change for the better and like I would totally earn some God points if I like SAVED someone. Gross. Our own good intentions apart from the Holy Spirit is a sad day for the Kingdom of God. The job is done. The mission is complete. Our ONLY job is to tell others what Jesus has done for us and HE does the rest. HIM! He does it. John 15:4 Abide in me and I will abide on you. For a branch cannot produce fruit if it is severed form the vine. and you cannot be fruitful apart from me. I am guilty.
We must stop believing that the FIRST thing Jesus would say to a sinner is stop sinning. I have yet to find anywhere in scripture where the First thing Jesus says to some one is Stop Sinning. Yes, In John 5:14 Jesus tells the Lame man, stop sinning or something even worse may happen BUT not before He tells him your sins are forgiven. Yes, In John 8:11 He tells the prostitute Go and sin no more BUT not before He says Neither do I condemn you. Let’s do what Jesus does FIRST. Let’s tell others their sins are forgiven. This is what softens their hearts to the King of the world, Jesus.
Last but certainly NOT least I have to talk about the author’s decision to be celibate in honor of his love for our Savior. I am absolutely in aww of David’s righteous decision here and I KNOW our father in heaven is just jumping for joy that David got it! David heard God, David ran so hard after Jesus that he got it! David so loves Jesus that he has given up his earthly desires so that he may be of service to Jesus. I mean come on!! What have I ever given up that I truly desired? Phew. ALSO, How super duper precious is it that David (the author) is named David, who in the bible is considered to be a man after God’s own heart?! It may have been just a nice name to his mom at the time BUT God! Oh But God Knew.
I find it hilarious that the song that is playing at the Juice bar right now is Aerosmith’s “Walk this way”, cause really, all Jesus wants us to do is love people in a way that when He tells them to “walk His way” they will not hesitate.
for this son of mine was dead and has now returned to life. He was lost, but now he is found. So, the party began. Luke 15:24
I once was lost but now I am found. Where you lost once? Are you still lost? Your father is running to you! He is ready to welcome you, adorn you with clothes and jewels and put shoes (Yes, Please!) on your feet!
When I was a young girl my Uncle asked me, What do you want to be when you grow up? I said,” I want to be a Party Girl (No R’s in my vocab yet.)!” . The laughter rang out throughout the family and this is when the Party Girl was born. I grew and I partied like it was 1999 all the time! I even partied when it actually was 1999! Now, I still love to party, I just Party more like it’s 2019 and I’ve got a lot of kids and I’m tired.
Since the day I found Jesus, He has been peeling the lies off my life one layer at a time.. A few years ago, after the Lord told me I would go into ministry, I was sitting in church listening to my pastor teach the protocol son story. I had read this story a thousand times as it was, in a sense “my” story. It became knew this time and I was flooded with gratitude for all the Lord had done in my life since I found Him. Then as I’m reading along with my pastor in my bible, the red letters say, So, the party began (Luke 15:24). It was as if my heart skipped a beat. Weeks before this, I had been reading Ephesians and Ephesians 4:24 jumped off the page. You must display a new nature because you are a new person, created in God’s likeness- Holy Righteous and True. These two scriptures collided that day and I felt the Lord say, You are my Party Girl-Holy, Righteous and True. All of my past felt redeemed in that moment. Before this, if I would have heard the phrase, “Party Girl” my heart would have winced in silent pain and regret. On that day though, the Holy Spirit took that label, cleared out all the sin and filled it up with all of His truth. Isn’t it just like our God to turn the very things of this world that haunt us, into the very things He created us for to bring Him glory! Only God !
I tell this story to encourage you today. If you feel lost, IF you have deliberately run from the Lord, IF you are full of regret or shame, Go to your father in heaven. He is searching for you. He is longing to redeem ever part of you.
And can I just say, There ain’t no party like a Jesus party!
Romans 5:12 – When Adam sinned, sin entered the human race. Adam’s sin brought death, so death spread to everyone, for everyone sinned.
Romans 5:17- The sin of this one man, Adam, caused death to rule over us , but all who receive God’s wonderful, gracious gift of righteousness will live in triumph over sin and death through this one man, Jesus Christ.
Romans 5:6-11- When we were utterly helpless, Christ came as just the right time and died for us sinners. But God showed hi great love for us by sending Christ to die for us while we were still sinners. And since we have been made right in God’s sight by the blood of Christ, he will certainly save us from God’s judgment. For since we were restored to friendship with God by the death of His son while we were still his enemies we will certainly be delivered from eternal punishment by his life. So now we can rejoice in our wonderful new relationship with God. All because of what our Lord Jesus Christ has done for us in making us friends of God.
It’s a GOOD Freedom Friday!!
I am loving what the Lord is doing through these Freedom Fridays. Especially in me. These are all things I am learning myself. I am a struggler. I want to “get it right” “for God”. I bind myself in needless worries when all I really have to do is love people, tell about what God has done for me and He does the rest. The Freedom in His love and sacrifice is sufficient. Happy Easter! I hope your holiday is especially filled with the Power of the Holy Spirit.